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RAND Study links viewing sexual content on TV with teen pregnancy—even when factors such as grades, family structure and parent’s level of education was taken into account.

Is this surprising to anyone??????

I consider myself a fairly hip, open and progressive person. But, even I am uncomfortable with the amount of sexuality on TV today, particularly among shows that are marketed to “teens.”

Two and a Half Men—Emmy-award winning “family” sitcom starring a teen—mentions sex EVERY episode THROUGHOUT every episode. Now it’s in syndication.

Reality shows like Tila Tequila, The Real World, Flavor of Love, Rock of Love and so many more have young people with fake breasts, dressing scantily, stripping for men, and having sex with one another. With NO consequences.
Here are some of my concerns:

  • Casual sex is glamorized

  • There is no discussion about contraception, unplanned pregnancies, or STDs

  • It is everywhere, all the time—sometimes in your face, sometimes subtly—but it is always there seeping into their developing brains

  • Some will argue that these shows are just “reflecting” what teens are really doing…….
    Teens drink alcohol and experiment with marijuana and other drugs. If the majority of programming on TV had young people drinking heavily and using drugs, there would be public outrage.
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    I was fortunate enough to be in Nebraska last week doing two workshops for health/mental health care professionals and an evening workshop for parents.

    It was a great group! I’ve always found Nebraska—particularly Lincoln–one of the country’s best kept secrets.

    Nebraska is currently struggling in a way they never expected. The legislature recently passed a “Safe Haven” law to allow parents (usually young mothers) to anonymously drop off an infant they are unable to care for without facing penalty or prosecution for abandonment.
    As someone who has appeared on Nancy Grace commenting about tragic stories of day-old infants found in trash cans and fields, I am a huge supporter of this type of law.

    The Nebraska law allows a “child” to be dropped off, purposely broadening the term from infancy to help protect toddlers who may be at risk for harm.

    Eighteen children have been dropped off since the law went into effect in July. Unfortunately, many of them have been older children and TEENS. A grieving widower dropped off nine of his children aged 1-17 years old because he could not take care of them.

    Another woman dropped off her 15-year old nephew when she and his guardian could not take care of him (his mother died and his father left him years before). She said they tried medication and discipline, but could no longer handle his behavior problems. A 14-year old from Iowa was dropped off and one mother drove 12 hours to drop off her 13-years old son.

    See Dr. Lisa on CNN Headline News discussing the Nebraska Safe Haven/Teen story (Part 2 of a 2-part interview)

    Some people see these parents as horrible, terrible parents. I don’t. Not at all. In my work I come into contact with parents across the county who are stressed out, overwhelmed, and desperate.

    Should they be dropping their children off? Of course not.

    But this speaks to two things

    1) how distressed and overwhelmed many of today’s parents are

    2) that resources to help them are either not available or if they are, parents don’t know how to access them. (more…)

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    I’m speaking in San Diego and it’s open to the public!!!!

    Usually, agencies and organizations bring me in to talk only to their staff, but these 2 talks are open to EVERYONE.

    Thursday October 23, 2008

    1) Teens with Mental Health Disorders: Who They REALLY Are (Daytime)

    More Information

    2) When to Worry: How to Tell if Your Teen Needs Help–and What to Do Next (Evening)

    More Information

    Would be great to see you if you live in the area!

    AND…

    We’ll have copies of my book When to Worry and new DVD The Secret Cut available at an event discount!

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    Last week I appeared on CNN with Dennis Hof, the owner of the most famous legal brothel in Nevada. The topic was a 22-year-old who was auctioning off her virginity to help pay for graduate school-she wants to be a Marriage and Family Therapist. Yikes! Things got pretty heated on the show…..

    As you can imagine, I wasn’t a fan of the idea. It’s her body and her choice as to what she wants to do with it (this is NOT the first auction of this kind). But what effect will this very public auction have on young girls graduating from high school-especially  if their family doesn’t have money to send them to college?

    Will these girls decide to finance their education by auctioning off their virginity to the highest bidder?

    I have a Ph.D in Psychology and paid for my education with a combination of waitressing, student loans, and low-paying counseling jobs. What about those options?

    This public “virginity auction” comes at an interesting time. Virginity is actually fashionable again now that The Jonas Brothers and other pop stars are talking about the virtue of waiting until marriage to have sex. Even if teens can’t wait until marriage, don’t we at least want them to wait until they’re in a committed relationship-rather than the one with the most CASH?

    I find it sad….for the auctionee, but mostly for the young people who will hear about her and think it’s a good idea.

    visit my website When To Worry

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    The headline is all over the place: ADHD Is on the Rise. ADHD has increased 1997-2006. A new survey from the CDC/National Center for Health Statistics says it’s so.

    I can’t and won’t believe the conclusions of this survey.

    I’m not saying that ADHD is or is not on the rise (in fact, soon I’ll talk about how common ADHD is!), but I am frustrated by headlines and so-called “national studies” that are inaccurate and weak.

    This study found:

    • 9% of children have ADHD
    • Boys had ADHD more often than girls
    • White and Black children have ADHD more than Hispanic children
    • Children with Medicaid have ADHD more than uninsured or privately insured children

    This study (and the headlines) forget to emphasize that they consider a child as suffering from ADHD if “a doctor or health professional ever told the parent that their child had ADHD….

    I think that is crazy.

    Just because a doctor SAID a youth has ADHD in no way means the youth ACTUALLY HAS the disorder. In fact, they aren’t even saying that a “mental health professional” said the youth had ADHD. (more…)

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    FRIDAY, July 11 (HealthDay News) — The teen birth rate is up for the first time in 15 years, and homicides among teens are up for the first time in 12 years, a new government report finds.

    Pregnant Teens

    Pregnant Teens

    Dr. Lisa Boesky, clinical psychologist and national speaker recently appeared on CBS’ The Early Show to discuss this phenomenon brought to the mainstream media because of the pregnancy pact among teens in Massachusetts

    On the plus side, there has been a drop in childhood deaths from injuries, and fewer eighth graders are smoking, according to the report, put out by the Federal Interagency Forum on Child and Family Statistics.

    The proportion of Asian and Hispanic children in the population has increased, which reflects the growing diversity among individuals of all ages across the country.

    A particularly disturbing trend was the increase in Homicides committed by teenagers– up for the first time since the early 1990’s.

    Other risky behaviors, such as alcohol and drug use did not increase or decrease. Read More..

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    Dr. Lisa Boesky, Guest Expert on Fox News this morning discussing the biggest hit online today! Katy Perry – “I Kissed a Girl” Video the hottest songs on iTunes!  Dr Lisa discusses this on Fox News

    Today’s girls are upping the ante in vying for attention from their male counterparts. Being pretty, smart, or having a good personality doesn’t get a boy’s eye when the girls next to you are kissing each other!

    This song isn’t talking about being a lesbian, she’s got a boyfriend and is just “experimenting.” Katy sings about liking the taste of “cherry Chapstick” and “hoping her boyfriend doesn’t mind.”

    Dr. Lisa discussed this new trend in teenage girls kissing each other and the change Katy Perry made from being a Christian singer to a new pop princess with controversial lyrics.

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